Tallmadge family gets heartbreaking news
Published Aug. 4, 2005
By Carl Chancellor and Jim Carney
Beacon Journal staff writer
On Lance Cpl. Daniel ``Nate'' Deyarmin's 22nd birthday, he called his parents from Iraq.
``He was happy,'' said his mother, Edie Deyarmin. ``He was always happy.''
It was the last conversation she would have with her son.
Two days later, Edie and Daniel Deyarmin Sr., parents of the Tallmadge Marine, received news that their son had been killed in Iraq, along with five other snipers.
Deyarmin, a 2002 graduate of Tallmadge High School, had joined the Marine Reserves in January 2003.
He was sent to Iraq in January 2005 with other members of the Akron-based Weapons Company of the 3rd Battalion, 25th Marine Regiment, 4th Marine Division.
He was made part of a special sniper unit while overseas, his family said.
His father said he was at home when two Marines arrived to inform him of Deyarmin's death.
His father said he ran around his Tallmadge yard, pulled his hair and cried.
Then he had to tell his wife they had lost their son.
Edie Deyarmin was checking on rental property the couple owns and was in downtown Akron when her cell phone rang. Her husband told her to come home right away.
The elder Deyarmin asked the Marines to hide their car behind a tree so he could break the news to his wife.
At first, his wife said, she thought that maybe something had happened to one of the dogs. But then her instinct told her it was much worse.
``I knew on the expressway,'' she said. ``The Marines are at the house.''
The Deyarmins, who also have a 23-year-old daughter, Erica, said their son was a great auto mechanic. He had dreams of joining the CIA when he got back from Iraq, and maybe owning rental property like his parents did.
He played football in high school and was a hunter. He was also a practical joker who could make anything fun, his mother said.
Across Tallmadge, American flags flew at half-staff in honor of Tallmadge's native son.
``He was a big, strong young man. . . . He looked like the kind of guy you would think would be a Marine,'' said Don Duffy, who has been a counselor at Tallmadge High School since 1982.
Duffy, sitting on his front porch, leafed through a 2002 Tallmadge yearbook and let his finger come to rest on a black-and-white photo of Deyarmin.
``I was Nate's counselor and adviser during his four years in high school,'' Duffy said, remembering Deyarmin as a good student who was well-liked by his peers.
``The phrase that keeps coming to mind when I think of Nate is `likable.' He was just a soft-spoken, polite, low-maintenance type of guy.''
Duffy remembered Deyarmin coming to talk to him about his future before his high school graduation. ``We talked about his interest in the military. . . about him wanting to go into the military,'' Duffy said.
Tallmadge Mayor Christopher Grimm said his city hasn't experienced a tragedy like this since Vietnam.
``This community has been shaken to its very roots,'' said his secretary, Karen Morgan.
In a July 4, 2005, article in the Beacon Journal, Deyarmin wrote of being away from loved ones over the holiday and ``instead being with my fellow Marines defending what so many people take for granted and don't appreciate.''
He also wrote of what it means to be an American, describing how ``the free will to be over here and help each other is one of the hardest things in one's life and still being able to put (forth) our best effort to make the best of every situation we encounter. That's what we as Americans do. We make the best out of everything. Semper Fi.''
Tallmadge School Superintendent Vince Frammartino said that when he heard of Deyarmin's death, it felt ``like a knife went through me.''
Frammartino remembered Deyarmin as ``a super nice young man'' from a ``strong'' family.
Last year, before heading to Iraq, Deyarmin and four fellow Marines spoke to Tallmadge Middle School students.
``He was very proud to be a Marine,'' said Frammartino, who was a Marine in the late 1960s. ``. . . . He gave up his life for us and for a good cause.''
Edie Deyarmin said that whenever she or her husband spoke to or wrote letters to their son, they conveyed the message that what he was doing was important and that he was important.
``We told him as a kid, `You are a Deyarmin; you can do anything,' '' his mother said.
And when they spoke to him on the phone, like the last call on his birthday, they had a rule not to talk about anything negative.
So they did not tell their son that an aunt had died the week before.
They knew that as a sniper, he had a difficult job that often required him to be without sleep for hours on end. They knew he had to be focused at all times.
And in those phone conversations, the Marine's father told his son he loved him. ``He was a hero,'' his father said.
Grief and love for slain Marine
Published Aug. 10, 2005
By Jim Carney
Beacon Journal staff writer
It was a simple three-word message for a fallen Tallmadge Marine:
``God bless you.''
The Internet posting by someone identified simply as Debbie from Akron symbolized the outpouring of love and support for Lance Cpl. Daniel Nathan Deyarmin and his family.
More than 800 paid their respects to the 22-year-old Marine Reservist at the funeral home on the first day of calling hours.
``On behalf of the over 27,000 members of the Ohio Sons of the American Legion, I offer my prayer of comfort to the family,'' wrote Roy Turner, a Tallmadge High School graduate from Duck, W.Va., and past commander of the Ohio Sons of the American Legion.
On the guest book at the Beacon Journal's Web site, www.ohio.com, dozens from the Akron area and from around the world memorialized Deyarmin, who died with five other Marine snipers on Aug. 1, 2005, in Iraq.
The Tallmadge High School graduate, who turned 22 two days before he was killed, was a member of Akron's Weapons Company, a Marine Reserve unit that left for Iraq with units from Columbus; Brook Park; Moundsville, W.Va.; and Buffalo, N.Y., in January.
Since the unit of about 1,000 Marines -- 3rd Battalion, 25th Marine Regiment, 4th Marine Division -- left, 30 Marines have been killed in action, including six from the Akron unit, four from Brook Park, 16 from Columbus and four from Moundsville, W.Va., Marine officials said.
An additional 15 Marines from other parts of the country and other units who were attached to the 3/25 Reserve Battalion have also been killed since the deployment to Iraq, officials said.
Tiffanie Newman and her brother, Jimmy Newman, both longtime friends of the Deyarmin, were so moved by his death that they both got tattoos over the weekend in his honor.
``It is a way he will be able to live through me forever,'' said Tiffanie, 24.
She said she planned to attend calling hours both days as well as the funeral. ``He was a wonderful, loyal friend,'' she said.
One of the online tributes for Deyarmin came from Army Sgt. First Class Evelyn Hall, an Akron native serving in Kosovo, who wrote on the Web site, ``All military services here in Kosovo are feeling sorrow for your loss.''
A writer from Tallmadge wrote of being the same age as Deyarmin and of having a child.
``I think of what she will be when she grows up. . . maybe a nurse or a lawyer. I can only wait and see, but I know she will be free to choose because of you,'' said the writer, who didn't sign the note. ``You gave your life for my daughter. What else can I say? Thank you.''
Ron Gould of Tallmadge, wrote of being in shop class with Deyarmin,
``In the brief time I knew him, we found common ground in working with our hands and talking about trucks,'' he wrote.
``To his family, you have raised a wonderful person. Everyone would be better off if more people had someone like Nate in their life.''
Friends Amy and Delaina Fretz of Tallmadge wrote of how much they would miss him.
``It's never goodbye,'' they wrote. ``It's always I'll see you later.''
A man who identified himself as a father from Akron wrote a poem that finished this way: ``Godspeed to the Tallmadge hero and his comrades who've gone before. Rest in peace, dear Nate, for now and evermore.''
And there was this from Jenny Jarvis of Tallmadge, who thanked Deyarmin for talking to her when he was in Iraq. Deyarmin, she said, made her feel like she could be a Marine.
``And that's what I'm going to do,'' she wrote.
Name: Daniel Nathan Deyarmin Jr., 22
Died Aug. 1, 2005.
Service: Marine Corps, lance corporal, Weapons Company, 3rd Battalion, 25th Marine Regiment, 4th Marine Division.
Biography: Deyarmin graduated from Tallmadge High School in 2002 and joined the Akron Marine Reserve unit in January 2003. He played football in high school, loved cars and was a great auto mechanic. He left for Iraq in early 2005. He was a member of a six-member sniper team, all of whom were killed outside Haditha, Iraq.
Quote: ``He was happy. He was always happy.'' -- Mother Edie Deyarmin.